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God’s intended marriage
January 24, 2010, 9:42 pm
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This is how God intended marriage to be.                                                     01-24-10

First thing lets hear what God says about how it all starts, in Gen 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Talking of a young man in his manhood setting out to start his own family, getting married lasting forever.
Loving each other, 1Pe 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Rom 12:10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Loving fervently and having honor for each other. Remembering that you joined together in Gods eyes, in marriage forever, these scriptures back that up. Mat 19:5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ Mat 19:6 So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

BATTLES- Always keep guard of your senses. TV is so bad at times. It is hard to find anything clean to watch out of 300 channels. Even commercials are hard to watch. Exo 20:17 “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.” Pro 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Remembering that you are to honor your spouse like as God loves the church. With that said, you get what God is imposing upon us LOVE it is the key to true happiness. Php 4:7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

We get angry for whatever reason, but we should never go to bed that way. Eph 4:26  “In your anger do not sin” Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, Always try to work it out, but if for some reason you cant, at least agree to put it aside until a time that you can continue it. But never just expect it to go away, it may slowly build until it comes out in something unexpected. Be honest about a time in which it can be continued.  So many times it is said we’ll talk later but later never comes. Hear this scripture Eph 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Keep Christ the center of your home, “Christ, husband & wife, children” this goes back to Psalms 127 building your house on sand “worldly” vs. solid rock “Christ”. This IS how it works repeating: Christ, Father-Mother, Children. Keeping this into perspective will make making decisions easier.
Psa 127:1 Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain. Pro 3:6 in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

Remember to pray together this will bring closeness in your relationship and pray for one another to lift each other up. The old saying goes a family that prays together stays together, it is the closeness that we all need. Jas 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective. Mat 26:41  “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak.” WE ARE WEAK.  Jas 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. That is Awesome! We WILL sin, ask forgiveness and move forward.

Divorce We are living in a fallen world things can get messed up but always agree that divorce is not the answer no matter what the case, God is with you pray to him he will lift you up. Mat 19:9  “But I say to you*, whoever divorces his wife not for sexual sin and marries another commits adultery, and the one having married the one having been divorced commits adultery.” God doesn’t want us to divorce because you wake up one day and decide its time for a new spouse. He stresses that we must work it out. It is hard work sometimes we are different. Rom 7:2 For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. Yes God told Moses we could give a certificate of divorce, because they could not stop from sinning. Mat 19:8 8Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. It was better to grant this then to have them sinning. But of course we messed that up still. Pray and pray again about everything.

Keeping the family circle tightly closed. Personal intimate things should not leave your household, only if you are seeking professional counseling for a particular issue. Pro 31:11-12   Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. We need respect each other.

Love according to God, we must work on it everyday to try measure up. This scripture is Gods plan for us to love. Read 1Co 13:4-8 all about love. 1Co 13:4-7   Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It alwaysprotects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Can we live in love in everything we do? We must try.

I want you all to know that Name-Calling and unwarranted criticism, kidding or not, is not in love. Neither of you are perfect. Don’t you think God knows this? Also don’t hold any resentment, bitterness toward one another. Remember that you cannot change anyone; only God can change a person’s heart. No matter how we try.  Pray to God that he will change their heart. Let us be kind at heart maybe a sense of humor too, enjoy each other’s company. Corinthians says to be patient and do everything in love. Keep love on your tongue be aware of nagging or arguing coming on. Lets decide to speak softly and kindly to our spouses. But don’t overdo it by giving in too much or becoming a doormat, then again not enough. Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.  Mat 7:13-14  “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 14 But small isthe gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it. Lets stay on the right path, the path of righteousness. 

Lets talk about privacy. We all have some things that we call our own, not ours, mine. We all need to let the other have that privacy. This is not about hiding things from your spouse, I m talking about maybe his garage tools, her sewing basket, how about your wallets. Be honest with each other have a trusting relationship, have faith in them, not having to checkup on one another is such a relief. 1Co 13:4-7  Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Cleanliness is next to Godliness. I don’t know who said this but it runs deep for us. Your bodies are temples for God to dwell in. Do you think he wants us not to take care of his temple? So we need to keep it clean and maintained. Lets bring praise and glory to God with a well-presented temple and a great reverence for him. 1Ti 2:9 I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, (not to dress as a prostitute) Pro 31:27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. 1Co 14:40 But everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way. Scriptures speak of slofflessness’ being of the devil and we want nothing to do with him. Heb 6:12 We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised. 1Ti 5:8 If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. Pro 15:32 He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding. Pro 26:12 Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him. Lets take care of Gods temples….

As for income this is where mine/ yours stops. All income should be ours, besides its Gods money. Our only responsibility is to know how much of Gods money we need to live modestly. Both are equal in the spending area but guide lines should be in place not to over spend. Example: “anything over $50. call each other where-ever or when-ever to discus the spend.” We are all blessed with what God gives us. We are to be good Stewarts of God’s money and should never forget that.
One thing we can do to keep strengthening our relationships is to talk freely to one another. This is like counseling together. Whatever the topic just be open minded, patient, and above all be a good listener. Remember to always encourage each other; this will bring a higher level of confidence to speak more freely. This is good for both of you. We are all made with different personalities. Do everything in love, pretend Jesus is standing right next to you, he is!. WWJD is a great slogan, you can live by it. Earnestly pray over your house for protection and against the evil things of this world.

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